“I can’t do it; I can never do it,” once your kids throw their hands up saying something like this, it seems like there is no going back. As a parent, you want your child to be a go-getter and have a relentless attitude towards moving past the obstacles. But, your child has suddenly entered into almost a negative phase, where they are quick to give up in the face of the slightest challenges.
As educators with years of experience in working for and with children, we, at DPS Kota, a renowned CBSE affiliated school in Kota, can assure you that you aren’t the only parent in this predicament. And, the good news is that there are quite a few effective ways to develop a more optimistic attitude in kids. So, without further ado, let’s discuss some of those ways in which you can help your kids get rid of their “I can’t do it” attitude.
Stop coming to their rescue when they give up
We understand how hard it is for parents to stand back and watch the kids struggling. However, coming to their rescue every time they say, “I can’t do it” will only end up exacerbating the negative attitude. A more effective approach would be to teach children the steps to take for completing a given task. Give them enough time to master every step before moving on to the next one, and gradually, such an experiential practice will help build their self-confidence.
Help them but let them do the final task
Of course, there will be times when your kids simply cannot do all of the task on their own. In such cases, help them only so much that the final task is left for them. For instance, if they are struggling with a particular piece of homework, you can assist them by reading out the questions or assignment out loud and asking them whether they understood the question. Let them come to the solution for the problem slowly but steadily.
Aid them in internalizing their accomplishments
After the kids have successfully done an activity or task, try to reframe their negative ideas with a positive affirmation. Tell them how they started off by saying they can never do it, but with a bit of effort and perseverance, they were successful. Praise the fact that they did not give up as this will help them in internalizing their success, which will slowly remove those traces of negativity from their minds.
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